Social Butterfly-ness

Hadeda ibis
The Daily Prompt: Tell us about a talent youโ€™d love to haveโ€ฆ but donโ€™t.


Is being social a talent? I think so. I know many people who are very good at being social. They’re flouncing about with all the “How are you’s?” and “how do you do’s” yet never listening or caring about the answer, but still they are revered. I also know people who can turn this particular talent on and off at random. It’s all about knowing how to charm and be charming. There are those who are sincere in their friendliness and then there are those who are rather false; I’m afraid to say. That type of falsehood causes me to feel rather nauseous.

Anyway, back to the point. I am a supreme loner. In fact I think I could be crowned the queen of loner-ship. The only problem with being such a loner is that now and then I crave friendship. The friendship that is sincere and warm, but I will never get that if I continue living in my sorry loner state.

There is a problem though, and that problem is that I lack the “Social butterfly” talent. Sometimes I wish I had that talent and that I could turn it on at random…and then other times, most times, I just don’t wish that at all.

33 thoughts on “Social Butterfly-ness

  1. I suppose you must force yourself out of your comfort zone and take the chance? I lived most of my life alone then decided in 2006 that enough was enough.

  2. I know how you feel. I’m a loner too. Socially challenged. When I do happen to meet someone and friendship starts my wall of protective solitude jumps in the way. It really stinks!

  3. I can relate with that. It’s funny, because if I am much braver when I have my camera with me and I am officially shooting an event. But, if I were at that same kind of event as just me…I would not be as social. The camera is like a cape of bravery giving me some “right” to talk to people.

  4. Love your hadida shot. They make so much noise, so I don’t think they’re at all shy. ๐Ÿ™‚ I do enjoy my own company, but have got better at socialising since we moved here to Florida, People here are so friendly towards us. xx

  5. As the years have passed I have become more and more insulated/isolated, for goodness’ knows what reason.
    It began when most of my work could be done from home with a computer and a phone.

    Aside from jogging in the morning there are weeks when I have to actually force myself out the door and go shopping or something.
    It’s weird, I know, and it’s not a habit I particularly like.
    I don’t miss ”socializing” in the strictest sense; but I think we just must guard against becoming hermits!

    The shot of the Hadeda is smashing.
    I watched four in the garden this morning through the bedroom window. What was funny was one of the dogs was playing roly-poly with herself on the lawn and one of the cats, Django was lying on the grass too, less than fifteen feet away and the birds carried on poking for crickets or bugs or whatever with a complete air of nonchalance.

    • I know what you mean by becoming a hermit, I could get to that place I think if I don’t try to get out of my loner rut. Those Hadedas think they own the land here too, they have more attitude than cats, but I like them around though ๐Ÿ˜Š

  6. It’s hard to socialize when one is on the introvert side. I was/am… I say that because I was ‘very’ introverted but my husband helped me somewhat by being an extrovert. Still I’m shy when entering a room full of people and look for the nearest chair I can find to feel a bit more at ease. Most of the time I wait for someone to speak, in case I do first and they don’t respond… or seem interested. Eventually I relax somewhat, but I know the feeling so well…. Diane

  7. Granny is a loner too, so am I by the way, but she found out that others have more problems with it than herself ๐Ÿ˜€ She is open for furriendships, when it comes, but she doesn’t look for it. We have put another share in the linky, Hope. Pawkisses for a Happy Sunday ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

  8. I think one of the main components of social talent is having an obviously genuine interest in the other person and their doings, and the ability to ask the right questions. Even the most reserved person will unwind under that treatment, and it is a skill that, with practice, gives its own rewards to the normally reticent.

    • I have an interest in people, very much so. I reckon that is the reason that I am such an avid people watcher, but my introverted-ness is so overpowering that I cannot ask the questions or initiate a conversation as I would like to. ๐ŸŒบ

Namaste. My soul honors your soul. I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. I honor the light, love, truth, beauty & peace within you, because it is also within me. In sharing these things we are united, we are the same, we are one.

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