I was not going to get on my couch anymore, especially not here on the blog, but today I will break my rule.
So tell me something? I try my hardest with the people I know. I really try, but ever so often, over and over again people just seem to get nasty. Now, not everyone I know is like that, but then I don’t know that many people.
What rattles my cage is when a person who I least expect to behave that way does. Usually I will blame myself, and will accept that whatever the problem is probably my fault.
So my question is this; if this same thing happens over and over again with different people throughout the years, surely it must be me, because of the repetition of the same problem…or is it that most people are just really nasty, regardless of the front they put on, and that I am a fool?
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It’s just happenstance. Don’t beat up on yourself.
You are right, I should stop beating myself up about such things. Maybe I should just close those doors and move on.
Thanks John.
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Heita, be glad you are different and unique! HUGS.
Thanks Newsy 🙂
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I would say, emphatically, that it isn’t you.
You might for some reason be drawn to the people who are jerks, but them being jerks isn’t on you at all.
Thank you for saying so, El.
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My honest opinion here is this, if someone is nasty it’s about them, not you. And, anyone that says or makes you believe differently, especially if coming from the nasty person, is probably projecting some aspect of who they are onto you. My opinion for what it’s worth.
Love, Paulette
Thank you so much Paulette. I did not think of it that way.
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Neither. There has to be a middle ground, where they are good enough to fool everyone (not just us) and we are willing to believe the good in others until proven otherwise.
Sorry you are going through this ((hugs))
Thank you so much.
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Some people are just nasty. I try to set people straight right away if I don’t like there nasty attitude. If they don’t straighten up they are at the bottom of my friends list or not a friend at all. From what I can tell you are a kind hearted person and I pray peace, love, and happiness follows you where ever you go.
Peace
Thank you so much Frank. I should do the same 🙂
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I always say that no matter where you are you will always come across the same type of personalities. So no, it isn’t your fault. 😀
Thank you Raewyn, that is so.
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One of 2 things:
each person is responsible for their emotions and feelings, and the actions that come of it.
Or, when someone else is out of line, it is your responsibility to get out of their way, or be run over by them.
If you get hurt by someone, it’s your responsibility. This is YOUR life, and EVERYTHING is about you. Choosing not to be responsible is dumping your projections onto them. Things don’t happen to you, they happen for you… to grow into the empowerment that is the gift that you are.
My blessings to you…
Thank you Christopher.
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That’s beautifully stated, Christopher! Hope you feel better soon, Hope*! 🙂
Thank you Gipsika.
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I would not blame myself… it is best to ignore these people and not beat up on yourself…
I’m going to start ignoring from now on, thanks Bulldog.
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A LIGHT always shines best in the DARK … just let your light so shine on … whether in the light or in the dark :))
Thank you CL, I will try.
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It’s definitely not you! There are many people out there that have a nasty moment and you’re unfortunate to be at the opposite end of that *hugs*
Thank you so much for saying so TA.
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I’m not just saying it, I really mean it 🙂
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Thank you TA 🙂
I know the feeling. All I know is that you will never please everyone all the time. Some people are just born nasty and well, be glad you’re not as big as fool as I am. I am the queen when it comes to that. 😉
Oh Gosh Sonel, we will have to be queens on this together then. I am such a fool.
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Believe me, I beat you on this one Michelle. 🙂
We are birds of a feather then, Sonel… 🙂
You are neither fool nor foe. You are a person who cares. I know this because I recognize certain twin traits. I think everybody I meet is good until they aren’t. And then I am
seriously shocked and hurt. Let’s think of a new name for us trusting souls – yeah – “trusting souls.” 🙂
I like that, thanks Dor 🙂
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People are nasty. Period. They want to manipulate, own, direct or dictate. A true friend – somebody who is kind and wants the best for you, is almost an anomaly. It is life. It’s the way it is.
So I am a fool to believe that there are some anomalies around then…am I a fool to believe?
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No…the rest are fools not to see the kindness in you..
Thank you for saying so, Amos.
I try not to let the nasty people get inside me. I won’t give them the power to change me. I am the queen of letting-things-roll-off-me. Then I keep the power to be who I am.
I like that very much, Genevieve. I will try to do that too.
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It is not you at all- people think it is ok to show bad behavior rather than put it away and act civilly. I would call them on it the next time- perhaps it needs to be brought to their attention so they can act more appropriately towards you. That or stay away from them…they are full of negative energy!
I think you’re quite right, and I don’t really need to put up with that behaviour.
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Well, we know that you’re not a fool so we’ll start there…. I think there are just those in the world that love to find fault with others and create havoc… I believe that those type of people are not happy people …. I sometimes have tended in my life to think I’m to blame if someone has a problem with me… but am learning to counter-act that thinking. And I think you need to as well… ‘It’s their problem not yours’… don’t accept it … Diane
You are so right Diane, I will try that as well.
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Seems like such a coincidence that you would write exactly how I have been feeling for several days due to the nastiness of someone I love (well, the love has pretty much gone now). I wish you luck – and me too! I think I am going to just have to walk away from this so-called friendship with my nasty person.
Thanks jm, yes, I feel the same way too. I wish you luck as well.
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For me it’s my brother – feel so gutted. Are you okay?
I’m so sorry to hear that. I am ok thank you. Hope you’re going to be ok?
Yes – am trying to resolve things as we speak, He has always been a prick – haha!
Difficult dealing with some people, I know a few of those too…
mmmm!
Unfortunately, that is just how some people are and somehow the nasty people always find the nice people to prey on. Hope things brighten up for you soon. Have a great day!
Thank you Miss C.
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You are no fool, you should ignore those people and only be with the ones who lift you up and make you happy. the others are not worth it, when they do not bring anything good into your life.
You are so right, thank you Ute.
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Good question there. You’d want to look into this. What triggers them to be nasty?
You need to remember that often it’s their karma, not yours. But if you get the same response over and over – well perhaps there is something in that, a life lessons trying to make itself heard.
Are the contexts of these incidents in any way related to each other?
these are the questions I am asking myself too.
Thanks gipsika.
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I had a situation yesterday where I had to ask myself whether I’m a reasonable person, and I had to decide that, yes, as a professional I have a duty to insist on my pay.
Never stop being who YOU are because of other people….share your goodness and light with the world. It is not always easy, but that random act of kindness could very well be the turning point that some person needs.
Thanks you yummy, you are right.
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Hi Michelle, just enjoy the good friendships that you have made.
Cheer up!!! 🙂 Love and hugs.
I will, thank you 🙂
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