We all judge people, no matter how much we think we don’t or say we don’t. I think it is natural human instinct to judge. When we meet someone new, we automatically make an assessment. It is how we make the assessment that is the crux of the matter. If we are judging another according to their clothes and jewellery, well then that judgement will be on that particular superficial level, and we may miss a few points which may be of interest.
If we are are analysing what others say and their behaviour towards ourselves and other people, well that is judgement too. I think it is almost impossible not to judge or assess. In this world it has become a necessity. One needs to be able to pin-point those who may be harmful individuals and those that are not. I’m not saying that everyone is a harmful person at all, but we need to know where we stand at all times.
The reason I am thinking in this way is because I often just took most people at face value only to find I was very wrong. I was very naive in many ways. In my judgement of myself now, looking back, I reckon it was because I had a person in my young life who meant harm to me, and I thought that he was the only one, but did not realise the world is dotted with people like this all over.
We are told not to judge. For the Christians the Bible tells people not to judge. Perhaps I don’t understand judgement fully. Perhaps we are allowed to judge (whitely) like a white lie, but not act upon that judgement, but rather be aware and listen to our intuition.
Is it judgemental to listen to our intuition or make assessments? I think not. Our brains are constantly formulating opinions, and I think our intuition plays a huge role in our thought process.
Now that I’ve managed to get the words out of what has been turning around in my mind, my conclusion it that it is ok to make an assessment of an individual as long as it is in protection of our nearest and dearest, ourselves and others of course.. It is not ok to judge people who are not causing any harm, but whose views may be different to ours and who live their lives in a different way to ours.
Thank you for listening/reading. I would value your thoughts on this?