Today they want us to write and anonymous letter to someone we are jealous of.
To be quite honest, I am not really jealous of anyone at the moment. I have had times in my life were I was and have been jealous, but I seem to have outgrown the feeling. It takes up too much time and energy. It is in fact a much nicer to be happy for the person rather than being jealous.
I must say though that I do have moments “wishing.” You know, when you see something and you wish yours was the same without having any resentment for the person who has that. I think that is really the crux of the matter – not having any type of envious feeling for that person, but rather noticing the quality of what that person has, wishing them well and not having a feeling of resentment about it.
I get that feeling for really silly things, like when I see parents being really close, kind and respectful to their grown up children and grandchildren, and the children have the same with their parents. I love seeing this, and I am not shy to say that I watch them and appreciate that they have that. I just love seeing closeness and warmth between the fathers, mothers, sons and daughters and I do sometimes wish that things with my parents, or just one of them at least could have been different, but it can’t because the rivers run too deep and the turbulence is far too destructive.
36 thoughts on “The turbulence”
Somehow sad, somehow encouraging and motivational.
Thank you, Newsy…It is one of my life lessons I have learnt, the sadness has taught me to appreciate and cherish and not take anything for granted.
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It doesn’t help being jealous.. I rather wish the lucky people good … but I do agree I watch others with their families and am glad I have the same close relationship with my kids and grand kids and wish in hindsight that I might have had that with my parents…
Jealousy takes up too much energy which can rather be channelled into something more positive. I do understand what you’re saying Bulldog, and do I cherish my relationships with my children too… 🙂
I like the honesty you have shown in this post. It allows me to get to know you even more
I appreciate that, Terry. Thank you my friend…
It’s beautiful that you can appreciate those others with grace – it is such a sign of wisdom and beauty to acknowledge what we don’t have and see that presence in other people with admiration rather than resentment.
Thank you so much, onebreath. “Grace” is such a good word.
Good post. Sorry to hear that (in regards to your own) but I wish for a change 🙂
Thank you, Kai 🙂
perfect. the image hints at a story
Thank you, Melanie 🙂
Deep….that last sentence touched me..
Thank you so much, Amos…
Jealousy does not give anything good to you, so it is better to count your blessings. You are a beautiful soul Michelle!
Thank you so much, Ute – you are a beautiful soul too.
I am completely with you on this post but with a slightly different twist. I am so aware of how blessed my life is, and appreciate it. A wonderful family with 5 beautiful grandchildren. But the things I notice and wish for is perfect health for all. As you explain though the moments come with a total awareness that we can’t choose situations and without living our difficult moments the true understanding we have would not be in our hearts. Thank you for your post! It makes us think 🙂 With respect, hope, joy and love, Carmela
Thank you so much for sharing, Carmela – you said it perfectly.
The shot of the moonflowers are gorgeous Hope! Great post too and well written hon. I once read a quote that said : If you are jealous of people you are counting their blessings instead of your own. I prefer counting my own blessings. 😀
Have a great evening hon. 😀
Oh, what a fantastic quote and so very true, Sonel. Glad you like the Moonflowers, I took them a while ago in my garden 🙂
Jealousy is a wasted and negative emotion. ( I will add that I am really jealous of my girlfriend spending the month in Greece …smiles )
A month in Greece sure sounds like fun 🙂
You are such a lovely person, Hope. (( 🙂 ))
Thank you for saying so, Elizabeth…I think you are a lovely person too.
Lovely post today and the photo is just beautiful. You should set up an online store and sell some of your pictures, they are great!
Thanks so much and also for the idea, I might do that sometime 🙂
That’s a good way to look at it!
The only thing I ever really get envious of (by which I mean more than just a passing “I wish I had a car like that”) is people with kids – I don’t have any and it’s pretty much too late now. But it’s nice to see other young families around and just appreciate their happiness.
It is nice if one can appreciate others happiness and be happy for them, as you do, but it is also just human to have that yearning – and that yearning is not jealousy… Thank you for sharing Dr Ali.
it’s been a long time since I’ve been jealous of somebody.
As you rightly said – it’s such a useless emotion, and it serves no purpose other than to rob you of the happiness you might have had otherwise.
I also once saw a family where both parents were sitting around the table with their kids – and yes. i wanted that. So, I was happy to see such things still exist, even if I could not give that to my own children 🙂
Thanks ghiatjie, it is nice to see these things and be able to appreciate them 🙂
Yes, you hit the nail on the head about envy and resentment. It is a long time since I felt these and life is so tranquil without them.
I agree, adee, life is so much better without them 🙂