“How do you feel about that?” is a question I’ve been asked a few times in therapy in the past. It’s as though the therapist has no clue as to how moronic that question sounds when they’re not actually listening and paying attention to what the patient is saying. I found it most exasperating when the answer was so obvious but I was expected to say it – I would really wonder if this was a control issue with the therapist or was he really the idiot between the two of us. An example of what I’m trying to say … say for example; a brick falls on your foot and someone asks “How do you feel about that?” a tad bit vexing, isn’t it? But, I digress.
Recently, I have been asked this a few times. Why? Well, because my eldest daughter is now with a modelling agency. It all happened quite by accident. Being very arty she was looking into areas like tattoo artistry or graphic art etc, but then as things happened she is now with the agency.
I cannot tell you how many people (especially women) when they want to know what my daughter is doing now that she has finished school – I tell them that she is with the agency, do I get the “And, how do you feel about that?” The waves of exasperation flow over me…I dont suppose when someones child is studying to become a lawyer or doctor they would ask this question. My standard answer now is that I’m very proud of her.
My daughter is beautiful both inside and out, she is warm, sensitive, extremely spiritual and one of the loveliest human beings I know.
What I find quite amazing though is that no one asks me how I feel about it when I tell them that she also has a second job doing books and accounts? I am told by her boss that she is the best person he has ever had in this position. Not just a pretty face then? Quite amazing how judgemental people are?