DP Challenege: Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution that you kept?
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Yes I have, well to the best of my ability…
One year, it dawned on me that I was always being what others want me to be. I suppose it became a habit having grown up with a very domineering father and always acting and being how he wanted me to be. I had learnt that there would be great punishment for not adhering to the rules and regulations of the house. So I became a very scared, terrified little puppet on a string. I watched certain people’s every move, every expression so that I would know what my appropriate behavior had to be, otherwise I would have landed in trouble. I was not allowed to show happiness if I was happy about anything, I was not allowed to cry … I can’t tell you.
I then entered my “grown up” life still being a puppet, always filled with fear in case I accidentally evoked anger…but as I said, it actually dawned on me that I was allowed to cry if I was sad, I was allowed to be happy and show happiness if I wanted to and most of all I was allowed to not be angry when the normal human reaction to petty things would be anger.
I decided that people could go ahead and think of me as weak or too soft or whatever it is they think. I am soft, always have been, always will be, but I am not weak. I cry easily, feel compassion quickly, take pity easily and I wear my heart on my sleeve … Every now and then my old habits show their nasty little faces and I forget that I unhooked those puppet strings when I resolved this problem.
This resolution, I live and try my hardest to adhere to everyday of my life.
That’s the one thing we are allowed to be Esperanza – ourselves.
that’s a good resolution to continue with
Thanks ghiatjie, its the one I’ve stuck to
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Go for it and stay by it.
I will Newsy
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I’m glad that finely you RESOLVED the issue you had before.:)
Keep it up,
Yen-Yen
Thanks Yen
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I can identify with you. The most important piece of advice I received from my mom’s best friend I think you have already learned. She reminded me when I was 20 something that, although my dad had controlled my life when I was a child, I was no longer a child, and I determined what happened to me now. You are making a success out of your life. Enjoy your success! Lots of love and best wishes for 2013. Marsha
Thank you Marsha … that is good advice you got there
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I’m just full of it!!! Happy New Year independent, intelligent, popular, pretty, fun-loving, sensitive, creative, artistic, and successful lady. ML
*smiles* thank you Marsha <3
what a great post this is today!! good job!
Thanks terry
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nice resolution, Michelle
Thanks Nafees, this resolution is a few years old and I’m still working on it
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cool and great
Excellent
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thank you very much, Michelle
That’s a very inspiring resoluion Hope, I am going to adopt it too for 2013.
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*smiles* I am glad to have inspired you, Harmony
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I learned long ago not to live for anyone else. I’ll always be me no matter what anyone else thinks.
That is the way to be and the younger we learn this in our lives, the better.
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Agreed.
This is a great resolution to stick to. Staying true to yourself is what we should all aim for
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So true TA.
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your post moved me to tears, your posts always move me. . ps…I am not sure if you have been notified. go see my latest blog. much love xx
aw thank you sugar…
Will pop over and check.
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To thine own self be true.
absolutely
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Beautifuly said – being ‘soft’ is never weak. Being human is all we can do.
Very true, thank you.
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Stay as that, you are fantastic and wearing your heart on your sleeve is good and showing emotions now that you can. You are yourself and you need to be like that. Lovely post!
Thank you for saying so Ute.
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Congratulation, biggest achievment for a happy life!
Thank you
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So true and so perfectly put. Happy New year. ~ Lily ~
So glad you have stuck to this! Maybe I should have this on my wall: I am allowed to be who I am! xxx
You sure are!
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Best resolution I have heard – you and I were so very much alike when younger, I think. I have always had deep trouble saying or doing anything to upset anyone. I was always watching every word I said and everything I did.
The stroke changed all of that drastically, and I love it. (oh my, I shouldn’t have said that…lol)
Scott
*smiles* we are allowed to be who we are
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I am now proud of who I am
That is good to hear and a good way to be
I keep on saying to myself “What you think of me is not my business. Who cares” And it stuck. And yes, you are allowed permission not required.
You’re right and thank you seeker
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Pleasing others and not ones self….yes that’s a common thing. Good to get out of it but it can be hard to do. I keep on trying.
I am always trying, Eric
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you go girl! Be yourself and only yourself
Thanks Ruth. I will.
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Be true to yourself, no matter what. I’m trying that too, thanks for your reaffirmation, Hope xxx
And so you are blessed with the most important treasure of all, a sensitive, caring, sharing and selfless heart! That is your wealth, and it is an extremely beautiful gift! You feel deeply and that makes you wonderfully beautiful as a whole! Please be yourself always…that is the one i have always seen deep within your words…the one who i always love to embrace spiritually from afar! Much love to you always my dear sister!
Thank you Wendell, you kind words mean so much.
*hugs*
That’s the one thing we are allowed to be Esperanza – ourselves.
that’s a good resolution to continue with
Thanks ghiatjie, its the one I’ve stuck to
*hugs*
Go for it and stay by it.
I will Newsy
*hugs*
I’m glad that finely you RESOLVED the issue you had before.:)
Keep it up,
Yen-Yen
Thanks Yen
*hugs*
I can identify with you. The most important piece of advice I received from my mom’s best friend I think you have already learned. She reminded me when I was 20 something that, although my dad had controlled my life when I was a child, I was no longer a child, and I determined what happened to me now. You are making a success out of your life. Enjoy your success!
Lots of love and best wishes for 2013. Marsha 
Thank you Marsha … that is good advice you got there
*hugs*
I’m just full of it!!!
Happy New Year independent, intelligent, popular, pretty, fun-loving, sensitive, creative, artistic, and successful lady. 
ML
*smiles* thank you Marsha <3
what a great post this is today!! good job!
Thanks terry
*hugs*
nice resolution, Michelle
Thanks Nafees, this resolution is a few years old and I’m still working on it
*hugs*
cool and great
Excellent
*hugs*
thank you very much, Michelle
That’s a very inspiring resoluion Hope, I am going to adopt it too for 2013.
[[[hugs]]]
*smiles* I am glad to have inspired you, Harmony
*hugs*
I learned long ago not to live for anyone else. I’ll always be me no matter what anyone else thinks.
That is the way to be and the younger we learn this in our lives, the better.
*hugs*
Agreed.
This is a great resolution to stick to. Staying true to yourself is what we should all aim for
*hugs*
So true TA.
*hugs*
your post moved me to tears, your posts always move me. . ps…I am not sure if you have been notified. go see my latest blog. much love xx
aw thank you sugar…
Will pop over and check.
*hugs*
To thine own self be true.
absolutely
*hugs*
Beautifuly said – being ‘soft’ is never weak. Being human is all we can do.
Very true, thank you.
*hugs*
Stay as that, you are fantastic and wearing your heart on your sleeve is good and showing emotions now that you can. You are yourself and you need to be like that. Lovely post!
Thank you for saying so Ute.
*hugs*
Congratulation, biggest achievment for a happy life!
Thank you
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So true and so perfectly put. Happy New year. ~ Lily ~
Thank you Lily and to you too.
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So glad you have stuck to this! Maybe I should have this on my wall: I am allowed to be who I am! xxx
You sure are!
*hugs*
Best resolution I have heard – you and I were so very much alike when younger, I think. I have always had deep trouble saying or doing anything to upset anyone. I was always watching every word I said and everything I did.
The stroke changed all of that drastically, and I love it. (oh my, I shouldn’t have said that…lol)
Scott
*smiles* we are allowed to be who we are
*hugs*
I am now proud of who I am
That is good to hear and a good way to be
I keep on saying to myself “What you think of me is not my business. Who cares” And it stuck. And yes, you are allowed permission not required.
You’re right and thank you seeker
*hugs*
Pleasing others and not ones self….yes that’s a common thing. Good to get out of it but it can be hard to do. I keep on trying.
I am always trying, Eric
*hugs*
you go girl! Be yourself and only yourself
Thanks Ruth. I will.
*hugs*
Be true to yourself, no matter what. I’m trying that too, thanks for your reaffirmation, Hope xxx
My pleasure Cindy
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Very Late Happy New Year Dear
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Thank you and to you too!
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And so you are blessed with the most important treasure of all, a sensitive, caring, sharing and selfless heart! That is your wealth, and it is an extremely beautiful gift! You feel deeply and that makes you wonderfully beautiful as a whole! Please be yourself always…that is the one i have always seen deep within your words…the one who i always love to embrace spiritually from afar! Much love to you always my dear sister!
Thank you Wendell, you kind words mean so much.
*hugs*
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